If you build it they will come

Patti says-
“What is your type? What do you value in a partner?
A fun and provocative way to get started with this is to take fifteen minutes to make a list of your most recent boyfriends, not listing more than five. Write down their top five assets- the things that really attracted you to them in the first place and made you stay with them as long as you did. Then list their five worst traits- the things that drove you crazy, that made you break up with them, or want to punch them, or kill them, or both. “
My lists (in no particular order):
BF 1
Likes: cuddles, in shape, did nice little things, had good friends and hobbies, loves work
Dislikes: not an open communicator, didn’t seem like he wanted to know me, bad taste in music, not as socially aware, not very passionate.
BF2
Likes: loved work, non-traditional, passionate, funny (I can only name four….not a good sign)
Dislikes: always late, smelly, no follow through, dirty, wouldn’t settle down (why did I date this guy?)
BF3
Likes: cute, sexy, disciplined, smart, consistent
Dislikes: too rigid with routines, wouldn’t settle down, not very many friends or hobbies
BF4
Likes: sweet, loving, unconditional, smart, accommodating
Dislikes: door mat, needy, didn’t floss

So, if I build what I want, will he come? Is the Field of Dreams right? If I build it he will come….
Likes: smart, physically fit, passionate, consistent, sweet
Dislikes: smelly, antisocial, won’t settle down, uninterested