Ok friends, drum roll please! I met a nice guy from a small town in the middle of nowhere. Let me give you the history (brief as it might be). I was at a concert with a couple of guy friends last week on Thursday. The bar was crowded with primarily men. There were a plethora of male bartenders not too eager to pour libations in a quick like manner for these poor thirsty men. One man towered over the others and caught my eye. I used my womanly ways (bending over the bar with a slinky tank top) to get the immediate attention of one of the bartenders. I was served within 30 seconds and made sure to get an extra beer for the mystery stranger. The mystery stranger, Sam, introduced himself and thanked me. We chatted for a minute and then he disappeared.
I thought that was the end of him until he came back towards the bar a half hour later. He offered to return the favor and buy me a drink. I declined. Anyone who knows me understands my inability to handle more than two cocktail in a night. We talked for about five or ten minutes and at the end he asked for my number. To my surprise he texted me a couple of hours later letting me know that he did intend to pursue me.
On Friday night Sam called me. I felt like a scared teenager getting her first call from the hunky quarterback. But, within about a minute I felt comfortable and at ease. It felt so good to sit back and let him lead the conversation. I learned from Patti to make sure that I let the man lead (remember the debacle a couple of months ago when I didn’t follow her advice and lost Brian forever?). Sam led me right into his little plot of a date on Sunday.
Sunday I was picked up at 5:00PM and whisked away for a nice walk by Minnehaha Falls. This was a very great idea for a first date other than the fact that my ex-boyfriend owns the restaurant at Minnehaha Falls. I felt it would be a one in a million chance that we would run into each other and I didn’t mention that fact. On the way to the Falls Sam asked if I had been to restaurant X. Yikes! I had to fess up about the situation for fear that he was going to take me there for dinner. He was really cool about it and we opted to still head that way. Walking is a great way to get acquainted with someone. We were able to share silly stories and learn fun facts. My fun facts were fairly tame like that I’m working on my MBA, I volunteer, etc. His fun facts included his work at a meat lab in college where he killed pigs and cows, how he counted worms as a childhood job, and a blow by blow account of a fight in college (he didn't hit anyone). We ended the walk when it became apparent that I could no longer walk (note to self- do not wear cute flats that dig the flesh of your feet when a guy says to be comfortable).
We were off to dinner and he picked a Tibetan place that I wanted to try. Awesome! I love when a guy things out of the box. After spicy food and a few laughs we were heading back to my place. He was planning to drop me, but I easily convinced him to come up to my place for a drink. We spent an hour on my patio sharing a bottle of wine and more stories. It was pretty darn romantic. Cliché as it is, I had music playing, a candle and the wine. We started getting comfortable together. I was so comfortable that I rested my feet on his legs. I don’t know what possessed me to do it, but I randomly leaned over and kissed him. I didn’t feel the tectonic plates moving, but there was definitely something there. We finished the wine and slowly made our way to the door. He gave me a nice kiss goodbye and promised to call the next day and that we would go out later in the week.
Fast forward- He called the next day and we are going out again on Thursday. I’m giddy when I talk about him, but have also consulted my must-have list. See below:
Let’s go through the list (after one date). Yes, I am psycho.
Verbalizes needs – has already let me know that he won’t settle, wants to be happy with a partner, etc.
Tall- 6’5”
Thinner/good shape- he’s in great shape, little to no body fat, swims and is active.
College educated – Ag Major at the U of M
Job that affords moderate to high lifestyle – I’m thinking no. Lives in the basement of his friend’s home. Does must-have really mean “must-have”?
Socially liberal- Unsure yet.
Likes to touch- Yes
Gives verbal affirmation – Yes- Sends cute texts
Good hygiene- Yes- he even has nice feet
I can tell already that my needs/wants are more towards the physical and emotional categories. So now Patti’s has tasked me to list the top ten must-haves.Verbalizes needsOptimisticTallThinner/good shapeCollege educatedJob that affords moderate to high lifestyleSocially liberalLikes to touchAble to give me verbal affirmationGood hygienePatti goes on to say, “The top five entries on that list are your FIVE NON-NEGOTIABLES and you cannot compromise on these. They are the most important traits in a mate, and if the guy your seeing doesn’t have them, you need to move on. Yesterday. No exceptions.”
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